The Buddy System

“A friend should be one in whose understanding and virtue we can equally confide, and whose opinion we can value at once for its justness and its sincerity.” –Robert Hall

How do you pick your friends? Or do your friends pick you? Over the last week, this couple of toucans has been seen (mostly heard) hanging out in the trees surrounding the neighborhood. It’s rare around here to see just one toucan by itself. If you do, wait long enough, and you’ll detect at least one more nearby.

I wonder about their relationship. Maybe they are a mating pair. They could just be best buds hanging out. Either way, I hope they are good for one another.

One thing about living here in Costa Rica, the expat community is quite transient. It’s not been as easy to form friendships. But just as in the States, I’d rather have a few really good friends than a bunch of acquaintances. The kind Oprah talks about: “Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.”

Wonder what those two are up to?

Toucans are pretty, but I’ve actually witnessed them robbing the nests of smaller birds. I often run out to catch a glimpse of the “croaking” toucans. But if you stop and listen, you can hear the anguished cries from surrounding birds. The medium-sized kiskadees will gang up and swoop in to chase away the toucans. The toucans will just keep hopping from tree to tree, teasing the kiskadees. And, finally, the smallest hummingbird, fed up with the chaos, barks a warning to them all. Time to head home, show’s over.

Be mindful of who your friends are. Do they build you up, or get you in trouble? Do you have a good time enjoying true fellowship, or afterwards regret things you might have said or done while with them? I can’t assume every toucan I see is out to rob the surrounding nests. They may have just stopped to munch on some nearby fruit or insects. But it can’t hurt to watch and listen to see if they are up to no good. If they are, they can just be on their way. I don’t want them hanging around my neighborhood anymore.

The righteous choose their friends carefully,
    but the way of the wicked leads them astray–Proverbs 12:26, NIV

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