Date night is important to my husband and I. I’ll be honest, we didn’t have a date night for the first three months after moving to Costa Rica. The main reason was I didn’t feel comfortable leaving the kids home alone even though they are teens.
So far, date night is much better in Costa Rica than it was back in Texas. We would meet Friday night, usually at El Norte on Parker and Custer in Plano. I would alternate between the Shepherds Taco and one of their incredible salads. The Tex-Mex was great, but the meal wasn’t the focus. The problem was that our Friday night date came at the end of a long week of teaching and, more often than not, I was exhausted and found it more difficult to stay tuned into my spouse.
Our new spot here in Atenas is Don Tadeo’s Sports Bar. I alternate between the Ceviche Mixto and the Pollo a la Plancha (grilled chicken). The best part is it is on Tuesday nights right before we go to Bible Study. I like this new routine much more. Our talks are much more meaningful.
After twenty years of marriage, one of my New Year’s Resolutions is to kiss my hubby more. I’m not professing to have the greatest marriage in the world, but I can honestly say that my husband is my best friend.
Even before we were married, I remember a guest speaker in Bible college saying, “You can’t expect any of your relationships to be better than your relationship with God.” That’s one of the reasons I take my walk with God so seriously. I want a great marriage.
Then after a few years of marriage, Steve and I attended a marriage conference where I remember Teresa Ferguson telling the pastor’s wives, “Ladies, if you don’t take care of your man, there are plenty of other women out there who are more than willing to do it for you.” Not my man, ladies. You better back off!
My heart is heavy because it seems several marriages of friends and acquaintances have recently broken up or are in the process. At what point do these couples quit working on their relationships? Either with God or with their spouse? Lord willing, I desire to never be in such a place. I never want to give up working on it.
Another point I learned somewhere along the way is that you can’t expect your spouse to fill a need that only God can fill. So my goal is to work on my own walk, and then I can fully appreciate who my spouse is and who God made him to be. That way I won’t get so frustrated when he’s not meeting my expectations.